When you consider going to a therapist, are you filled with hope or doubt? I would say that many of us associate counseling with hope for a better outcome than where we are now. So, why are you left feeling like counseling isn’t working quite as well as you thought it would?
This is a little bit of a controversial topic. However, I have quite a bit of experience with it and as a result I feel that I can speak of it in a way that makes a lot of sense.
You go to your counselor or therapist and have conversations with them. They help you identify what you’re triggered by or what your limitations are. They may even come up with a plan of action with you or help you figure out what you need to do the next time you’re in a certain situation. While this is all good and things that need to be implemented, this is where things start to fall apart a little bit. This is all conscious conversation – tools on ways to implement, action plans you need to take, etc. You’re not working with the subconscious and certainly not working with the superconscious.
Beginning in the womb, your subconscious starts to form up until age 7. During this time when you have an experience, it generates a positive, negative, or neutral emotion. These emotions turn to thoughts which then over time turn to beliefs. This is all stored in your subconscious. So, the next time you have an experience remotely similar to the first experience, then it will amplify the thoughts which will in turn generate a snowball effect. We are told that once this forms then we cannot change it at the subconscious level. However, I’m here to tell you that is just not true, you can change it!
The way the brain works is that in a sense the longer that you’ve had a belief, the quicker you will react or respond on that matter. Everything that you do in therapy is done at the conscious level. This is not really supporting the subconscious or the change that is needed in the subconscious. You go to a therapist for help. You don’t go because everything is great, right? You go because you need to do something different; you need a different outcome. The challenge is that once you leave therapy and go to implement these things, your body has a reaction to the situation that is unsupported. Your subconscious is going to throw red flags because this is outside of it’s comfort zone. Things stored in your subconscious can be so powerful that it can almost paralyze you with fear. Every time you try to take a different action or to do better this feeling strikes. In order to see a change, you ideally have to get your subconscious onboard and get it neutralized.
Obviously, you can try to power through with the thought process of “what if something happens this time?”. One of the best things you can do is to think “what is it that I can do and what mindset do I need to have going into this situation?” This method gives you the opportunity to thoughtfully respond instead of coming from a place of reaction. This is one of the most powerful methods. Think of this, what would the person that doesn’t have that fear do and try to embody that person.
Another helpful tip is to remember you’re not alone and I mean this from a spiritual space! If you can remember that you’re not alone in achieving your goals, you are actually connected to a higher and better version of yourself. This is your instinct. This is the part of you that only wants the best for you. This is the part of you that wants you to have a glass of water and a salad versus sitting on the couch having a beer and potato chips which is the subconscious sabotaging your conscious. Be connected to this higher and better version of yourself, have a prayer or meditation to connect with yourself. Ask yourself, “what’s the next best step for me right now?” and keep asking that over and over. I will tell you that this is not an easy path. It takes a lot of will-power and effort. It takes a lot of determination and a lot of dedication to your why to hold yourself accountable to do these things.
Here’s where it goes badly, many people get triggered and start looking at the easier, “safe” option from their old habits. This is where my work at There’s A Balance for That comes in. I help you connect with your superconscious in every process that we do to change the subconscious. We go straight to the root issues of what created these triggers in the first place. Once we neutralize these at the subconscious level, then we can give your subconscious what it needs instead. Essentially replacing the easy way out that sabotages you. You will then have the tool to think “I got this!”. As you start to get more connected with this better part of yourself, you will be more inclined to do more things that are supportive of you.
As we work together, we dive deep into root causes and reconnect yourself. Your soul doesn’t want bad things for you. Your soul wants what is best for you. It is what signs you up to learn new things, it is what helps you to navigate difficult conversations, it helps you to reconnect with the person that you have felt disconnected from for years. We are activating this spiritual and subconscious level. This activates your genetics and your DNA in creating what you want.
If you are finding yourself in a difficult situation where you feel that you have done counseling, therapy, yoga, mediation and you are trying to figure out why you are not getting to where you want to go. This is where I tend to spend the most time with my clients. You are tired of the recurring issues. You are tired of the stress. You are tired of the anxiety. Then, There’s A Balance for That is a perfect place for you!